“How Many of These Bipolar Supporter Secrets Do You Know?”

Want to Properly Support Your Loved One Without Enabling?
Keep Reading to Learn How

Dear Friend,

Bipolar supporters have one thing in common: you’ll do anything to help your loved one conquer bipolar disorder.

But supporters differ in one key way.

Some supporters – and these people are definitely in the minority – become what I call “super supporters.” They’ve helped their loved one achieve long-term stability. They can read their loved one like a book and know how to quickly nip an episode in the bud. When an episode occurs, they’re able to help their loved one achieve stability and get back to “normal” quickly.

And most important of all … they’re able to separate themselves from the bipolar. They know when to step up and help their loved ones. When to make their loved ones help themselves. And they know how to take care of themselves first so they have the energy, patience and stamina to continue battling this disorder day after day.

If you, too, want to empower your loved one to take as much responsibility for themselves as reasonably possible … so you can still have a life of your own, then you MUST read this incredible letter!

Because I’m going to tell you about a new resource for bipolar supporters who want to maximize the support they give their loved ones … without enabling them.

Why Achieving Stability Isn’t Enough

About two years ago, my mom had reached a plateau in her recovery from bipolar disorder. The systems I had created for her were working. And she had been stable for a relatively long period of time. Now it was time to learn even more so that she could become even more high-functioning and take more responsibility for herself … so I could get back to my businesses and my own life.

I knew that the best way to learn what to do was NOT through trial and error. Nope, the fastest, easiest and most effective way to become a better supporter would be to find the best bipolar supporters out there … and master their secrets for supporting loved ones (without enabling them).

I wanted to find:

  • Individuals who were supporting an adult with bipolar disorder – and doing a really great job. I didn’t want to learn from people who have divorced or left their loved ones. I didn’t want to talk to people who have stayed in the relationship … but resent and constantly fight with their loved one.
    I wanted to find individuals who have stuck with their loved ones through the good time AND the hardest times … and who are still actively supporting their loved ones.
  • Individuals who had everything going against them … and didn’t have unlimited money to get help. Most of us don’t have unlimited resources. So I wanted to find people who were able to provide incredible support for their loved ones despite limited funds. In other words, I wanted to find people who didn't let a lack of money stop them from being the best supporter they could be.
  • Individuals who were willing to be interviewed … and be 100% honest. After interviewing literally hundreds of supporters over the past 5 years, I can tell you this: a shocking number of people embellish or flat out lie about their situations so they can look good. Of course, that wouldn’t work. I wanted to find people who would share the good and the bad.
  • Individuals who were successful over a long period of time (at least one year). I didn’t want to interview people who had loved ones with lives that were out of control and who weren’t doing anything about it. I had to find supporters whose loved ones were doing well … and who had been stable for a significant period of time, primarily because of the help of their supporters.

I had 2 ground rules when I started my search:

  1. The supporter could NOT be enabling their loved one.
    Enabling is when you basically handle all of a person's problems and they really don’t take responsibility for themselves. A good supporter, on the other hand, will help their loved one to manage as much of their disorder themselves as possible. A good supporter encourages their loved one to be as independent as they can be … while still supporting them when needed.
    Why was this so important? Because if you’re enabling someone, you’re not really helping them. More importantly, you’re hurting yourself. Bipolar disorder is a high-stress, draining disorder. If you taking responsibility for things that your loved one should – and can – do for themselves, you’ll wear yourself out. To be an effective supporter, you have to know how to draw and maintain boundaries with your loved one.
  2. The person couldn't have millions of dollars in the bank and buy their way out of their loved one's problems.
    I didn't want to interview supporters who were just hiring teams of doctors, therapists, lawyers, and other professionals to support their loved one. While this can be done, most bipolar supporters are just regular folks like us who have limited financial resources. I wanted to find supporters who have found a way to deal with the financial difficulties associated with bipolar disorder. I wanted to know their secrets so I could use them myself … and then share them with you.
  3. The person had to be supporting their loved one for at least 5 years.
    It's easy to support someone for a few months or a couple of years. Five years, however, shows you have really mastered it. It shows a real commitment, and I wanted to know how they did it and are still doing it, against the odds.

Boy, Was I Naive

I feel foolish admitting it now … but I thought it would be really easy to get this done. I thought these people would be readily accessible. "No big deal," I told myself. “I’ll get this done in a couple of weeks.” Boy, was I wrong!

The first place I started was at bipolar support groups. After all, what better place to find a bunch of supporters than where they’re all meeting, right? So I started networking at the meetings where I volunteer.

I Quickly Made a Shocking Discovery ….

After 3 weeks of attending meetings almost daily, I still hadn’t found the people I was looking for. I thought maybe it was because I was attending meetings only in my town and a few neighboring towns. (Who knows, maybe there aren’t a good supporters in Succasunna, New Jersey, right? ☺) So I expanded my reach and started attending all the meetings I could find with 1 hour of my house.

After 5 more weeks of meetings, I had to face the facts:

  1. In virtually all cases, the bipolar supporters who attend support groups are actually the ones who need a lot of help and really haven't mastered supporting a loved one with bipolar disorder at all. They attend the meetings because it’s the first place they think of when it comes to finding the information they are so desperate to get.
    Unfortunately for them (and for me, as it turned out), successful long-term supporters generally don’t participate in those meetings. I guess it’s kind of like high school. Have you ever gone back to your high school to "give back" to current students … talking about how important high school is and all the ways you got through it and became a success? Probably not.
    Well, the same thing happens with bipolar supporters. Once their loved ones were doing fine, they stopped going to the meetings. They had learned everything they could learn to help their loved ones get stable, then they “graduated” and didn’t come back.
    As a result, the meetings wound up simply having the people who had the biggest problems in them – people who were looking for direction, people who were supporters of newly diagnosed loved ones with bipolar disorder.
    This is to not criticize the groups; it's just a reality. I should know – I’ve been volunteering at them for YEARS now. So I speak from firsthand experience.
  2. If I did find someone who had some pretty good ideas, tips or strategies at these meetings, I couldn't interview them. It was weird – they were really reluctant to talk … especially if I was taking notes. And when I tried scheduling a follow-up conversation, our schedules wouldn’t never match up … or they’d say they were “too busy” to talk right now and that they’d “call me later” to schedule an appointment. (And of course, I never got a return call.)
  3. Most people at the meetings were only there for themselves. They had nothing to offer anyone else. In a way, it wasn’t surprising – their loved ones were only at the beginning of "recovery" (i.e., management of the disorder) … so they were still trying to figure out how to be a good supporter. Others had experience as a supporter, but were too shy to speak up or to share anything. Much of the time, the meetings were filled with tension … as people were afraid to talk about themselves or their loved ones. Most felt that they had nothing to give to others or to share – all of this was so new to them. The problem was that they were looking for advice from others who were just as lost and confused as they were!

After several weeks of scouring bipolar supporter meetings with no luck, I finally realized I was wasting my time.

I Decided to Try a New Approach

Since I had a pretty big mailing list already (probably about 45,000 people on it), I figured that I could simply email a request for successful bipolar supporters to contact me. (You may even have seen this ad yourself.)

Anyway, I really thought I could find people this way. After all, if my subscribers were actually using the information I was teaching … surely I could find a dozen or so who were really successful at supporting their loved ones, right?

So, I sent out a request and kept my fingers crossed.

I had a TON of responses. There were just a few problems….

What I Was Disappointed to Learn

The responses I received fell into a few categories.

  1. People who were only pretending to be bipolar supporters. Instead, they were the ones suffering from the disorder … and they weren’t stable. I’m not sure why they responded to my ad. Maybe they were looking for their “15 minutes of fame.” Maybe they were confused. All I knew for sure was … they weren’t people I could interview.
  2. People who didn't have any good strategies or tips and tricks to offer. Instead, they had basically gotten lucky in supporting someone with bipolar. Because I figured out that their success was random to begin with, I knew that I (or you) couldn’t repeat their success.
  3. People who had valuable information … but who couldn’t explain what they were doing very well. Unfortunately, if they couldn’t present their information in an interview so that the listener or reader of the transcript would understand, I couldn’t interview them.
  4. Some people wanted to be paid (and paid big bucks).

I was really frustrated at this point. But I was also committed to the point of being obsessed. “For Pete’s sake,” I said. “Someone has to be doing a good job at this. Where in the heck are they?”

My Secret Mission

At this point, I had spent hundreds of hours on this project. And I was no closer to finding the people I wanted to interview than I was when I started. I took a few days off to clear my head … and then I came back to work determined to find successful bipolar supporters – no matter how hard it was or how long it took.

So I started my secret mission.

The reason I say it was a secret mission is because I really didn't tell anyone. That is, I didn’t tell anyone on my list.

Why? Well, at this point, I was a little worried that I wouldn't be able to find the people I was looking for. I didn't want to get people's hopes up only to have to say, "Well, I couldn't find anyone or get them to agree to be interviewed. Sorry."

I felt like I had a responsibility to the people who looked up to me to help them. I didn't want to let them down. I really did want to find these bipolar supporters who were finding success at helping their loved ones manage their bipolar disorder. I knew they were out there somewhere – and I was going to find them, no matter what!

How I Developed the Ultimate System to Find Bipolar Supporters

One day I was talking to one of my employees, Michele Soloway, who told me that I needed a better system. So together with her and another woman who works with me, Cherie, we made:

  • A good ad to find successful bipolar supporters
  • A good form for interview candidates to fill out
  • Preliminary questions to screen out people who might not be the best interview
  • A fair system for paying participants
  • A system of exacting the key tips, tricks, secrets, and strategies from the potential interviewees
  • A system of recording the interview for easy listening
  • A system of transcribing the interview for easy reading

We spent a whole lot of time to make all these mini-systems that went into the big system.

I Launched My Bipolar Supporter Finding System

I was so confident about this great system that we developed that I thought I would just easily find the right people, interview them, and that would be that.

But even with our great system in place, it was much more difficult than I thought it would be. In fact, it took almost 7 months to get all of the interviews scheduled and completed.

First, I had to find a way to do the interview. None of these people lived where I do, and I couldn't travel to where they were, so I had to find a way to interview these supporters over the telephone. I had to find a system whereby I could do that … and that took a little doing. It was a new skill I had to learn; but I was very determined, so I learned how to do it.

Once I figured out the technical side of the interviewing process, I had to coordinate my schedule with the schedules of all the people I wanted to interview. It's idealistic to think that a supporter of a loved one with bipolar disorder has an easy schedule – believe me, they do not! These individuals are very busy people.

Once I was finally able to schedule an interview, I had to get the participants prepared to do the interview. Many of them were very nervous, as they had never been interviewed before. So I had to help them calm down and relax so they could deliver a good, coherent interview.

So I would call the supporters on the phone. We would do the interview, and I would tape the interview over the phone.

Then I had to find a way to get the interview transcribed … which was an interesting challenge. You just can't walk down the block and find a transcriptionist. I thought of getting someone like a court stenographer, but that's where I was confused. These are two totally different professions.

So I advertised online and found someone (and this amazed me!) who could take the taped interview and transcribe it from online, and then send me the typed transcription of the interview.

Wow! What a process!

But it was worth every bit of the time, money and detail, because I got what I needed to be able to help the people who were depending on me. Ultimately, I got interviews from all those supporters who were successfully helping their loved ones to manage their bipolar disorder.

And that’s why I’m so glad you visited this webpage today.

Announcing Supporter Secrets to Success, Volume I

After all this time, I FINALLY have put together "Supporter Secrets to Success, Volume I." This includes 10 interviews – both the audio recordings and the transcripts – with the 10 best bipolar supporters I found during my almost 2-year search process.

The amount of information these “super supporters” shared is truly amazing. Take a look for yourself.

  • The longest you should tolerate a disrupted sleeping pattern before getting concerned that your loved one is headed into an episode (page 6)
  • How to prove that your loved one is headed into an episode without having to yell, cry, threaten or get upset (use this method and your loved one will tell you when a problem is coming up – not the other way around) (page 55)
  • The normal reaction that supporters may have to their loved ones’ behavior … and why this response can actually prevent you from helping your loved one when they need it most (page 8)
  • The thing that all super-successful bipolar survivors seem to have in common (page 136)
  • What your loved one will be tempted not to tell you when they start going into an episode … and what to do today to ensure you get the information you need to help them (page 14)
  • Two criteria that your loved one needs to meet to be able to hold down a full-time job (page 37)
  • The biggest breakdown to avoid ... because it dramatically increases the chances that your loved one will go into an episode before you can help them (page 11)
  • The expert resource most people don’t think about … and how having this person on your team can help you spot and avoid major problems before they occur (page 34)
  • How to enable your loved one to control bipolar disorder … not the other way around (this technique will change your life!) (page 55)
  • How being successful in dealing with bipolar disorder can work against you (this one will surprise you) (page 12)
  • Want to protect your loved one if you have to call 911 in a crisis? This tip could save their life (page 164)
  • The person you must trust above all else when you think something is wrong … even when many of the professionals reassure you that everything is fine (page 39)
  • The hope that nearly every supporter has when an episode is coming … and how it can impair your effectiveness as a supporter (page 16)
  • The belief that many people with bipolar disorder have about hospitals … and what both you and your loved one need to know to be comfortable with hospitalization (page 19)
  • How to benefit from your loved one’s episodes … so episodes actually become a way to help your loved one (page 21)
  • The surprising way to reduce the stress of supporting someone with bipolar … and how this tool can help your loved one remain focused (page 42)
  • The type of irrational thinking to address immediately if you want to substantially reduce the pressure that your spouse’s bipolar disorder puts on your marriage (page 49)
  • The surprising thing to bring someone with bipolar disorder out of an episode without medical intervention (page 27)
  • The main thing you have to learn if you want to become an expert at supporting someone with bipolar disorder (page 127)
  • The “negative” behavior you probably need to adopt to get your loved one much-needed help (page 32)
  • Why you can’t depend on a therapist or doctor to teach you how to effectively cope with your loved one’s bipolar disorder … and how to learn the things you must learn as quickly as possible (page 123)
  • The 3 types of advice you’ll receive that you should ignore at all costs (following it will increase your stress and frustration – I guarantee it) (page 54)
  • Why blindly following doctor’s orders can be a mistake … and what you should be doing as a supporter to ensure the best medical care for your loved one (page 33)
  • The simple legal technique that will protect your home from the effects of your loved one’s manic spending sprees (page 47)
  • Why getting treatment for your loved one is only half the battle … and what your family must be prepared to do if you want to help your loved one maximize their success in coping with bipolar (page 73)
  • Why you might need to threaten your loved one’s doctor and therapist … and what to say to ensure they get the help they need (page 35)
  • The common misconception that may place you in danger (this is probably the single most important – and hardest – thing to accept if you’re supporting someone with bipolar disorder) (page 71)
  • The only responsible thing you do when your loved one complains about the effects of bipolar medication (this helps them and shows that you’re listening to their complaint) (page 96)
  • 3 signs that your loved one is getting poor medical treatment … and what to look for instead (page 38)

Seem like a lot? It is … and we’re just getting started!

  • The 3-Day Rule … and how it can prevent a bipolar episode (page 10)
  • The single most important thing your loved one needs to do to regain control over bipolar disorder … and the type of support they need to be successful (page 56)
  • The most important rule to follow as a supporter (page 39)
  • Ways to help ease your loved one’s bouts of paranoia … without resorting to more medication (page 189)
  • The costliest mistake that you can make as a supporter … and how to be vigilant (page 40)
  • The controversial thing you might want to do to become a more effective supporter … and help your loved one get better medical treatment (page 186)
  • The most painful mistake your loved one will make during an episode … and how to not let it destroy you (page 41)
  • The Quiet Investigation … and how it will help protect your loved one’s stability (and maybe even their life) (page 97)
  • How humility can help you prevent and manage bipolar episodes (page 12)
  • The thing you must be crystal clear about when talking to your loved one – and what they must accept for you to be effective as a supporter (page 46)
  • The real difference between “normal” people and people with bipolar disorder … and how understanding this difference will simplify your life (page 208)
  • What recovering alcoholics know that will be critical to your ability to function as a supporter (page 47)
  • The shift you should make in thinking about your loved one’s bipolar disorder if you don’t want to become negative and cynical (page 107)
  • How to organize your finances so you’re guaranteed to have the money you need to pay your bills … while also giving your loved one some freedom and independence (page 48)
  • The biggest mistakes supporters make … especially if your child is the one with bipolar disorder (page 76)
  • One of the most effective techniques your loved one can do to help prevent episodes (page 51)
  • The shocking truth about how long it takes to become stable (most people don’t know this fact … and end up tossing in the towel too soon) (page 51)
  • The toughest decision your loved one may have to make (the more “successful” they are, the harder this can be) (page 182)
  • What pacifiers teach babies … and what adults need to relearn – especially if they have bipolar disorder (page 52)
  • The 2 most common situations supporters face when trying to spot a bipolar episode in the making (page 117)
  • How therapists may sabotage your efforts to help your loved one … and what to do (page 53)
  • The surprising thing that is the foundation for your loved one’s treatment plan – once you’ll see this, you’ll understand instantly why I constantly preach about protecting this area of your life (page 202)
  • The type of hallucinations bipolar disorder can cause … and how they differ from the hallucinations caused from schizophrenia, drugs or even too little sleep (page 54)
  • When you can’t let your loved one be completely independent … and how to tell when it’s OK to loosen your control over them (page 115)
  • Why some medical professionals will try to blame you for your loved one’s bipolar disorder (page 36)
  • How to prioritize your life so that you don’t burn out and your loved one gets much-needed support … and how this order needs to change periodically (page 122)
  • What you and the rest of your family must learn to do to effectively support your loved one with bipolar disorder (page 57)
  • The thing that can stop you from getting help when you need it … and how to stay alert for this potential block (page 7)
  • The shocking statistic about alcoholism and mental illness … and what to do if your loved one is abusing drugs or alcohol (page 59)
  • How your loved one may sabotage their stability … and what you can do to help prevent an episode (page 41)
  • The truth about how long it takes to find the perfect combination of medication for your loved one’s bipolar disorder (warning: this is depressing … but the good news is that we cover tips for dramatically speeding up this process) (page 119)
  • How to identify the potential triggers and problems that your loved one deals with as a result of bipolar disorder (the list is different for every person – this technique will help you identify the issues for your loved one) (page 63)
  • Does your loved one yell and act out a lot? Try this 3-sentence formula to calm them down (page 70)
  • The surprising reason that therapy is so effective at treating bipolar disorder (if you don’t use it this way, I can practically guarantee that your loved one will have more episodes in the future) (page 115)
  • The deal you can make with your loved one to dramatically reduce verbal abuse (page 71)
  • Why doctors believe their word is law … and tactics to use to get them to listen to you (page 34)
  • The common trap that supporters fall into when their loved ones go into an episode … and how making this mistake can be dangerous for your mental health (page 178)

But that’s not all …

  • How to get your loved one to go to a doctor’s appointment or therapy session when they don’t want to (hint: it’s not by making threats) (page 74)
  • One way to help your loved one cope with bipolar disorder that has nothing to do with medication or therapy (page 75)
  • The rule that should guide your day-to-day life – if you aren’t using this, bipolar disorder will be in control of your happiness and satisfaction (page 192)
  • The overlooked – but surprisingly accurate – predictor of how well your loved one will do at coping with bipolar disorder (page 84)
  • Why you must ignore one of the most basic rules of marriage if you want to protect your finances from your loved one’s bipolar disorder (page 45)
  • The 2 best things your loved one can do to help them physically cope with the effects of bipolar disorder (page 80)
  • Why you can’t trust everything you find on the Internet … and the 3 best web sites to use when researching bipolar disorder (page 34)
  • The magic words a therapist should tell your loved one to help you gain their trust (page 46)
  • What your mechanic can teach your loved one about treating bipolar disorder (page 83)
  • How becoming a patient can make you a better supporter (page 118)
  • How to stack the deck in your favor when taking your loved one into a therapy or counseling session (page 91)
  • How to create a positive, accepting environment for your loved one … and why they might resist your effort for a while (page 92)
  • The rule of thumb to use in determining whether your loved one is “stable” (page 51)
  • The most important thing you can do to help your loved one deal with bipolar disorder (if you don’t do this, they’ll never to motivated to do the hard work) (page 95)
  • The #1 rule to follow when preventing and dealing with bipolar episodes (page 11)
  • How to give yourself a reality check when you start to feel overwhelmed by your loved one’s bipolar disorder (page 190)
  • Why trying to keep life normal can actually sabotage your responsibilities as a supporter (page 9)
  • How bad behavior can help you get better medical care for your loved one (the tips we cover are proven to work) (page 98)
  • The powerful change you can make to help your loved one cope with bipolar disorder … and why most people never think of this (page 61)
  • The courtesy rule that will protect your relationships with your loved one … and nip problems in the bud (page 100)
  • One of the top triggers for bipolar episodes – it’s annoying for the average person … but downright dangerous for someone with bipolar (page 7)
  • The indulgence you may have to cut back on if you want to stay on top of potential problems (page 103)
  • The right way to react when your loved one starts screaming and yelling (this goes against your natural instinct … but it’s incredibly effective) (page 72)
  • The lesson that every homeless person you meet can teach you about helping your loved one live with bipolar disorder (page 204)
  • One of the most frustrating things to understand when you’re first dealing with bipolar disorder … and the truth you must accept to make your loved one’s diagnosis easier to accept (page 111)
  • The surprising reason that a support group might be harmful to you as a supporter … and what to look for if you want to participate (page 60)
  • The way in which your loved one will also be like a child … and how to help them grow up (page 113)
  • The Stability Equation … and how it can help you predict the causes of your loved one’s episodes (page 81)
  • What you as the supporter must do to ensure that your loved one’s episodes don’t destroy their finances, relationships and life (page 22)
  • The one person your loved one needs most to be able to successfully cope with bipolar disorder (page 79)
  • The natural reaction most people have to mental illness … and how this actually makes your job harder (page 114)
  • What you should let your loved one be in charge of … and what you need to control for their own good (page 175)
  • The very common – and very dangerous – “tricks” people play with their doctors … and why you must ensure your loved one isn’t playing these games (page 188)
  • When helping your loved one actually becomes harmful … and what you must do to avoid this situation (page 77)
  • 2 critical rules you must follow to avoid giving your loved one a “death sentence” (any 12-year-old could tell you these … but most adults never stop to think about them) (page 102)
  • How long a typical hospitalization lasts … and why you can’t trust the medications your loved one is given during an inpatient stay 100% (page 180)
  • The simple reminder that can help you be grateful for your loved one’s bipolar disorder (page 121)
  • The surprising mistake that might make your pastor happy … but that could actually result in the worst bipolar episode your loved one has ever suffered (page 203)
  • Why devoting yourself to your loved one is dangerous for you … and harmful to them (page 125)
  • The position you should adopt if your loved one is resisting treatment (this simple shift makes you a trusted confidante rather than a hated enemy) (page 91)
  • The first 2 things you should do if you or your loved one suspect that an episode is in the making (wait too long to do these – or avoid them completely – and I can practically guarantee that your loved one will end up in an episode) (page 129)
  • How the most well-meaning professionals can turn out to be your worst enemies (page 106)
  • Why supporters often are in worse shape than the loved ones they’re supporting … and the steps you need to take to protect yourself (page 94)
  • 5 red flags that signal your loved one may be going into an episode (page 131)
  • How to take steps to protect your loved one during an episode … and how to get their agreement when they aren’t thinking clearly (page 132)
  • The surprising way alcohol and drug use might be helping your loved one in the short-term (page 112)
  • How to block your loved one’s access to your finance … without making them feel broke or picked on (page 134)
  • Why your loved one will resist going to the hospital (even though it’s the safest place for them) – and what to do to get them there when they resist (page 19)
  • What to do today if you even suspect that a loved one has bipolar disorder (page 139)
  • What many people don’t know about bipolar disorder that may fool you into thinking your loved one is just depressed (page 140)
  • The hands-down most important responsibility you have as a supporter … and why your loved one’s stability and life depend on it (page 140)
  • 3 strategies you can use if your loved one suffers nasty side effects from bipolar medication (be sure to ask your doctor about these first, though) (page 141)
  • When it’s OK to step in and help your loved one with everyday tasks like paying the bills … and when such caretaking is harmful (page 113)
  • The hardest thing you will have to do as a supporter … and why you absolutely must find the strength to cope (page 143)

And that’s still not all. This program is literally PACKED with information!

  • The Rule of Holes … and how following it can help you prevent a bipolar episode – or minimize its effects (page 53)
  • How to use the Broken Record Technique to deal with your loved one’s irrationality during episodes … and the only time it’s not safe to use (page 146)
  • How to tell when it’s time to let go of your loved one because you’ve done all you could (page 147)
  • What to do if a medical professional tells you they can cure your loved one’s bipolar disorder (page 148)
  • What survivors of bipolar disorder often do to make themselves feel better about having this devastating illness … and how their attempts to help themselves can cause a downward spiral of negative consequences (page 152)
  • What watching someone else deal with bipolar disorder can teach your loved one in dealing with their own bipolar (page 104)
  • Why you need to disregard your loved one’s justifications for not taking medications … and what to do that will help treat their bipolar disorder while also making them feel understood (page 155)
  • The red flag that signals an episode is coming … and what you should do even if your loved one resists (page 9)
  • What you should do several times a day to help preserve your sanity … and give your loved one’s doctor an accurate picture of how your loved one is doing (page 157)
  • What you can’t rely on your loved one to provide … and who to turn to instead (page 131)
  • The biggest mistake you and your loved one can make in dealing with bipolar (page 58)
  • How to use narcissism to get your loved one’s behavior under control – not only does this technique practically eliminate conflict, it’ll make your loved one happy to go along with your suggestions (page 159)
  • The thing that will be your biggest asset – and your biggest enemy (page 114)
  • The difference between a mistake and a learning opportunity (understanding this will change your attitude toward bipolar disorder and dramatically reduce your frustration and stress) (page 162)
  • How to help your loved one face the natural consequences of how they act during episodes – without making them feel ashamed or embarrassed (page 134)
  • 3 tricks for persuading your loved one to go to the doctor (page 142)
  • How to deal with your loved one’s lies (hint: confronting your loved one is not the right way to handle the situation … unless you’re itching for a massive fight) (page 167)
  • Why you can’t stop your education once you’ve helped your loved one achieve some level of stability
  • Why your loved one’s bipolar disorder may actually be the biggest blessing of your life … and how to tell if that’s the case for you (page 170)
  • What you’ll be tempted to do as your loved one gets better … and why it’s more critical to avoid this mistake the longer your loved one is stable (page 206)
  • What to do if you think that your loved one’s medications aren’t working (this may make your loved one uncomfortable … but it’s absolutely essential to their stability) (page 176)
  • How to maintain healthy boundaries – the rule of thumb that tells you when you’re being helpful … and when you are being co-dependent (page 176)
  • The golden rule of bipolar supporters … and how it will protect your sanity and lower your stress levels (page 144)
  • What to do if you think your loved one is making a bad decision (hint: you have two choices … and which one is right for you depends on your loved one’s condition) (page 178)
  • Should you take control or let your loved one make his or her own decisions and mistakes? You’ll be surprised – and maybe relieved – to read this (page 179)
  • The most important pieces of information you must know as a supporter … and why they are so easy to forget (page 205)
  • 3 things to do if your loved one is a walking zombie because of medications – your loved one’s psychiatrist will actually be grateful if you take these steps (page 181)
  • The #1 skill you need to master to be able to easily understand and support your loved one … and what dogs can teach you about this skill (page 154)
  • The 3 best ways to ensure you don’t start enabling your loved one – if you do that, your loved one’s bipolar disorder will get worse … and your stress will increase exponentially (page 165)
  • The special paperwork you need to have in place if you are not married to the person you are supporting (page 186)
  • What DBT is … and the 4 primary areas of behavior that it can be used to control (page 52)
  • The 2 supplements you might want to ask your loved one’s doctor about (although I don’t typically recommend alternative medicine for treating bipolar, the 2 are such a good idea that even you might want to take them) (page 187)
  • The litmus test that tells you when to intervene in your loved one’s life … and when it’s better to back off (page 158)
  • What to do when you want to give up and walk out on your loved one with bipolar disorder (page 39)
  • What you have to be prepared to do in an emergency – your loved one’s life may depend on it (page 189)
  • The best way to diffuse your loved one’s irrational anger (this takes practice … but it pays off dramatically) (page 158)
  • The advice your loved one might be tempted to avoid when going into an episode … and what you absolutely must do if they try resisting (page 13)
  • The most vulnerable period your family will face during your loved one’s struggle with bipolar disorder … and why many families fall victim to this devastating situation (page 194)
  • How to recognize teaching moments … and how to maximize the opportunity they present to influence and support your loved one (page 161)
  • What many supporters forget … and how forgetting this crucial fact can make it easier for your loved one to go into an episode (page 197)
  • The Bipolar Stability Equation … and how it can help your loved one achieve long periods of stability (page 198)
  • How to get the information you need to monitor your loved one’s stability when your loved one doesn’t feel like giving you the answers (page 199)
  • The subtle and sneaky ways your loved one may try to destroy the system you create to protect their finances (warning: some of these seem so logical that even you’ll agree – initially – that they’re good ideas) (page 201)
  • The question you can ask when your loved one resists going to the doctor – this eliminates resistance in mere seconds! (page 130)
  • What you will do in an attempt to help that will actually make your loved one get worse and worse – avoid this at all costs! (page 203)
  • The thing that every person needs to survive … and why people with bipolar disorder need it more than the average person (page 18)
  • What most people don’t know when their loved ones cut back or stop taking medications – this simple fact explains why your loved one’s behavior shifts so suddenly and dramatically (page 184)
  • The 6-word sales question that will show you how to best deal with your loved one’s complaints and anger about having bipolar disorder (page 99)
  • How to effectively record and communicate everything you’re observing to your loved one’s doctor or therapist … and the biggest mistake to avoid (page 205)
  • How to change the way you think about bipolar disorder … so you can tolerate the negative side of your loved one’s behavior without getting angry at them (page 195)
  • The two basic choices you have when you need to pay off what your loved one spent during an episode … and the only choice that is safe for your loved one’s stability (page 207)
  • How supporters can “catch” their loved ones’ bipolar disorder … and what you must to do to protect yourself (if you don’t do this, bipolar disorder will destroy your life) (page 23)
  • The easiest mistake to avoid … and why making this mistake guarantees that bipolar will destroy your life eventually (page 209)

Learn It All Even Easier With Transcripts

When you’re listening to interviews, it’s really easy to miss information. I’ve learned that there’s a scientific reason for this – when you hear something interesting, your brain has to stop and “chew” on it for a minute … and you tune out whatever you’re hearing for a few seconds. (That’s why I always listen to material 2 or 3 times. Each time I listen, I pick up new information I could swear I didn’t hear before.)

To make it even easier to absorb all of the information contained in "Supporter Secrets to Success, Volume I," you’ll receive transcripts of each CD. That way, you can make notes while you listen and have a handy reference guide with 210 pages of information to refer to.

As one supporter to another, I can tell you this – “Supporter Secrets to Success, Volume I” is something you must have.

How do I know? My own personal experience, that’s how!

If I had been able to access this type of information when I first started supporting my mom, I would have saved years of frustrating trial and error. And my job would have been a lot less stressful and aggravating.

If you’re tired of feeling like your life is controlled by bipolar disorder …

If you’re itching to figure out what will help your loved one become even more successful and high-functioning despite their bipolar disorder …

If you want to do everything you can to help prevent episodes and help your loved one get back on track faster after an episode …

“Supporter Secrets to Success, Volume I” belongs in your bipolar arsenal!

“Okay, Dave . . .
So How Much Is This Program Going to Cost?”

First, I want you to change your mindset.

My dad used to think that information on bipolar disorder “cost” money. Now, he doesn’t think that way … because he realizes that information is an investment. Trust me, this information is going to SAVE you money.

Taking years and years to figure out how to be a great bipolar supporter is expensive. Just ask anyone who's been trying to figure it out for years. I bet they have spent more than $10,000. I am not kidding or exaggerating.

Simply add up all the lost work, the lack of health insurance, the visits to the wrong doctor, the money that’s been spent during episodes, the time you’ve lost from work because of your loved one’s emergencies, etc. It could easily come to $10,000 for several years.

For my family, it cost more. A LOT more. My dad easily spent more than $500,000. I personally have spent more than $250,000.

The information and proven strategies you’ll get with “Supporter Secrets to Success, Volume I” will help you in so many ways. And with it, the hundreds (if not thousands) of dollars of "mistakes" you'll avoid, you'll save money.

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As you’ll learn in “Supporter Secrets to Success, Volume I,” one of the traits shared by successful bipolar supporters is that they constantly seek out information about how to become better supporters. They know that if they can learn even one new tip, trick or tactic from every resource they find, their investment will pay off. Even the smallest ideas can pay huge dividends when it comes to your loved one’s health and stability.

So to encourage you to adopt this “success trait,” I’m going to give you an immediate discount of $50 when you invest in “Supporter Secrets to Success, Volume I” before the date above. Consider it your reward for committing to becoming an even better supporter.

Then you have two options…

OPTION 1: The 3-Pay Installment Plan

I know what it’s like to have to operate within a budget. To make your investment in “Supporter Secrets to Success, Volume I” super-affordable, you can make 3 easy payments of just $77 a month. That’s far less than you’ll spend when you try to find successful bipolar supporters yourself. Heck, it’s probably less than you pay for even ONE doctor visit or therapy appointment.

Best of all, you won’t pay a dime today. Your first payment will be due 30 days from now … which gives you a full month to review the entire program and decide if it’s right for you.

OPTION 2: The 1-Pay Plan

Want to save even more? I’ll knock an extra 13.4% off the total price when you make one payment of $199.97. If you select the “one payment” option, your credit card will be billed in full at the end of your risk-free, 30-day trial.

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There’s no question about it: This information is absolutely, positively critical for you to have.

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Guarantee #1: 30-Day, Totally Risk-Free, 100% Satisfaction Guarantee

Go through the CDs and transcripts. If you are unhappy for any reason whatsoever – or even if you just change your mind about learning to be a better bipolar supporter – send the entire course back … and you won’t owe me a penny.

(And don’t worry, if the mail is running slow and your course doesn’t get back here until day 32 or 35, and you’ve already been charged … I’ll still refund all of your money. This is really a totally risk-free trial.)

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If you decide to keep “Supporter Secrets to Success, Volume I,” your credit card will be charged in 30 days according to the payment schedule you select, and you’ll get an extra 90 days to continue reviewing the program on a totally risk-free basis.

And if you decide, on second thought, that this critical information somehow won’t help prevent a major episode with your loved one, send the transcripts back. I’ll refund every penny you paid . . . and I’ll even send you a $50 check for your trouble.

Plus, you can even keep all 10 CDs as my sincere thank you for giving the course a try.

That’s more than fair, don’t you agree?

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~ David Oliver, author of “Supporter Secrets to Success, Volume I”


I have to admit, now that I see these guarantees in writing, I understand why my accountant is up in arms about this offer. To keep him from resigning, I had to agree to put four conditions on the better-than-your-money-back guarantee:

  1. You must be supporting an ADULT with bipolar disorder. This information does not work with children.
  2. You must listen to ALL the CDs you get and read all the written material. If you can’t bother to go through the material, I cannot give you a double-your-money-back refund.
  3. Only one better-than-your- money-back refund is permitted per person or household. I’m going out on a limb here in offering this refund and am bearing a lot of risk on my shoulders – so please don’t take advantage of me. If you play fair, I’ll play fair.
  4. You must write me a detailed letter explaining why you didn’t find the material useful and give me permission to reprint it with your name on my website. This way, I can use your suggestions to make the product better … and to prove to people who wonder if these guarantees are real that, yes, they truly are.

Now even if you don’t meet these conditions – or even if you simply just change your mind on purchasing the product – I’ll still give you 100% of your money back, no questions asked (just not the better-than-your-money-back refund).

If you don’t meet the conditions spelled out above, just send the ENTIRE material (the CDs and the transcripts) back within the next 120 days (90 days after your first payment is made).

Why Am I Doing This?

I am bending over backward to make it risk-free for you to invest in “Supporter Secrets to Success, Volume I” because I KNOW you need to hear this information if you are supporting someone with bipolar disorder. I’ve been in your shoes – heck, I am IN your shoes today. I know how hard it can be to support someone with bipolar disorder. Just like I know how desperately you want to get your hands on anything that will make your loved one’s life better.

I promise you … you will NOT find this information anywhere else. I wish I had known this stuff when we went through my mom’s most recent episode. I had to learn it the hard way. But I take comfort in knowing that you don’t have to.

If you don’t get this information, you are probably DOOMED. Bipolar will continue to run your life … until it drains every last bit of your motivation, patience and hope.

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I am not kidding around or just trying to get some money from you. You ABSOLUTELY, POSITIVELY need to get this information if you are supporting an adult with bipolar disorder.

NOTE: If you are supporting a child with bipolar disorder or if you have bipolar disorder yourself, this material is NOT (and I repeat, NOT) for you. This information is only for people who are supporting ADULTS with bipolar disorder.

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If you are a bipolar supporter, it's critical to listen to other supporters that have lots to offer you. If you don’t, this disorder will suck the life right out of you. I’m convinced there is no faster road to burnout than being a bipolar supporter without having access to the wisdom of other supporters who mastered the ability to outthink this disorder.

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